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Rediscovering your inner child

When was the last time you had a really good laugh?  You know the kind I’m talking about – those laughing fits you get where you can’t stop laughing even though your stomach hurts and tears are rolling down your face and you can’t even speak.  Those are the best laughs, and when you think of a situation that made you laugh like that, it can’t help but put a smile on your face.

Why does it feel like those really good laughing fits seem to diminish with age?  A sad thing for sure, because as grown-ups with all the things that we preoccupy ourselves with, we need those laughing sessions now more than ever!  Why do we find it so hard to lose control?  Why can’t we let go of more than a smile or a moderate chuckle?  Why has something that was once so easy become so hard?

At a certain point when we were kids and our egos hadn’t taken over so fully, we didn’t worry about what other people thought.  We were able to laugh at ourselves without berating us for being stupid or clumsy.  We knew that people were laughing with us and it never entered our minds that they were making fun or laughing at us.  So why did we go and make our lives so complicated?

Part of the problem is that we take ourselves way too seriously.  It would seem that all the challenges in our lives are so dire that they could truly result in the end of the world at any given moment.  No one has time for “silly childish games”.  But why is that?  What’s so wrong about reconnecting with that part of you who knew how to lose yourself in laughter?  Rediscovering that part of you that hasn’t learned to be concerned with what was considered “unacceptable” or “making a fool of yourself” could actually be a really good thing!

We’re not talking about bringing a whoopee cushion into your next business meeting, but we are talking about making time in your life for real fun!  Whether it be tossing water balloons among friends on a hot summer day or making snow angels in the winter time, it can be easy to forget about how simple it was to find joy and laughter when we were younger.  You don’t have to go way on an expensive vacation or have pricey toys to have fun.  You just have to find something you really like to do and do it without any kind of filter.  Don’t think that you’re too old, or that you’ll look ridiculous doing it, just do it! Sometimes the attempt alone will give you material for your next really good laugh!

You may argue that there is no time for childish fun once we’re all grown-up.  Adults have responsibilities that must be taken care of; rent or mortgages have to be paid. Groceries need to be bought, the kids need to go to dance or football practice – no time for games! It is precisely because our lives are so hectic that we need to make an effort to inject some fun into them.  We are all so stressed.  We go from stress at work, to stress on the roads, to stress at home.  If we don’t find a way to lighten things up, all these stressors are either going to make us very sick, or worse.

There are very few people who enjoy being around someone who doesn’t like to have some fun.  We need to learn how to lighten up, to rediscover joy in the simple things, to be silly and not worry so much about what everyone else is thinking. We need more fun in our lives for sure, go do it now, there are so many things you can do, here’s one I do – hire a party bus for friends.

When we make a little more room for fun in our lives, our problems won’t seem so apocalyptic and life can actually start to be a joyful experience again.  We can’t turn back the hands of time and reclaim our youth, but that doesn’t mean we can’t still enjoy life with child-like abandon!

How bad do you want it?

We all have goals and aspirations for the future.  If someone were to ask you, for example, where you see yourself in 20 years, you may pause for a bit, but soon you would be able to come up with a list.  The problem for many of us is that we haven’t given much thought as to how we are going to achieve the future we dream about.  Most of us plan for the future financially, investing in retirement plans or mutual funds, but is that all we need?

It’s amazing how many things we put off for another day, or “someday”.  Why do we put off our happiness when we could be happy right now?  We find all kinds of excuses for why we can’t realize our dreams in the present moment: there isn’t enough time, enough money, or the stars just aren’t aligned perfectly.  If you are looking for reasons not to pursue your dreams, there will be plenty of them out there however it begs the question, how bad do you really want this?

If you really want to achieve your goals and dreams, there shouldn’t be anything that will stop you from pursuing them!  In Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich, his chapter on persistence provides many examples of people who confronted obstacles in pursuit of their dreams; however they were unwilling to see these challenges as stop signs and persevered until their reached their goal.  When you think about most of the successful people in the world, they didn’t achieve their accomplishments overnight.  They knew what they wanted and kept their focus, regardless of what was thrown at them.

Many of our dreams and goals may not be things that can be realized overnight.  That doesn’t mean that we can’t start working towards them today!  What better time is there?  Consider how much you could accomplish if you dedicated an hour or two each day towards one of your goals.  Setting short-term goals or benchmarks towards your long-term goals can assist you in seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.  It will provide you with a sense of accomplishment which will help you to maintain the momentum to push through any challenges that come your way.

The reality is life is short, and as much as we don’t like to think about it, our time in the physical realm is not guaranteed, so why do we think we have the luxury of putting off our dreams to some far off date in the future?  If today was your last day on earth, would you be at peace, knowing that you lived your life to the fullest, or would you panic, upset because there was so much more that you wanted to do?  None of us wants to live a life of regret, or with a sense of incompleteness.  We need to learn how to enjoy every part of the journey and work towards the achievement of our goals now.  Let “one day” become today and get ready to discover joy and happiness in each present moment!